The lyrics to this Paul Simon classic come to mind as I sit on my couch for the fourth straight day nursing a bruised foot. All it took was missing one, just one step...and I am out for the count. The Universe has been whispering in my ear, "Slow down Richa, slow down, pause...!" and here we are. I hear you, thank you, I get it.
This is the first time I have ever hurt myself like this. I took a toss walking from my car to a 7-year old's birthday party. I had barely walked five steps and found myself slipping, falling on my left hand, scraping my left knee and bruising my right foot. In the first few moments I was disoriented by the fall and felt quite certain that it was nothing, that I could get right back up. But then I tried moving my right foot, and no, it wasn't meant to be. I was hurt.
I was in a lot of pain but at the same time laughing because I knew exactly how I had created this accident for myself. The last few months have been quite hectic and I haven't really been...
In today's economy, the workplace has become more "dog eat dog" than ever. Competition for promotions and pay raises, vying to land big contracts, not to mention keeping up with industry competition have all lead to the creation of a more stressful work environment than we have ever seen before.
It is said that if you don't take care of yourself you are no good to anyone else. Big businesses have been taking this to heart by incorporating ways for employees to effectively deal with their stress. Now we're not talking about updated prescription plans or cost shares for therapy. The companies we are about to discuss have taken self-care one step further with the institution of on-site meditation rooms and yoga studios.
Take, for example, a woman by the name of Lindsay Van Driel, a business operations manager at Intel. Van Driel used meditation in her own life to manage stress and promote wellness and relaxation after a long day in the office. She was even taking classes to become a...
I had the privilege of interviewing friend and colleague Dr. Jim Goldstein shortly before he agreed to be our guest speaker at our June 2014 Pause for Power Luncheon.
Jim has created a process by which people learn to communicate effectively and honestly, whether in business or life in general, in a way that is neither defensive nor hurtful. In his recent book, Powerful Partnerships, Jim teaches readers how to use honest communication to create an authentic relationship with others. The end results are more productive, creative, and successful business and home lives.
You can purchase Dr. Goldstein's book, Powerful Partnerships: The Power to Transform Any Relationship into a Great One! on Amazon.com in either paperback or Kindle formats.
The psychology of belief tells us what is really going on behind the scenes when we act, interact, and react with one another.
Because our beliefs are the driving force in our lives, I think that pausing to acknowledge and assess our beliefs is time well-spent.
Do you sometimes become attached to your beliefs...so much so that you have difficulty seeing things from someone else's perspective? Our beliefs have the power to build us up as well as destroy us. Take a moment to pause with me as we discuss how our beliefs have an extraordinary effect on our relationships, our families, our communities and our world.
My yoga teacher in tonight's class repeated this phrase several times – "This is your edge, this is your practice. There are no judgments. Just breathe. This is your breath. This is your practice". Such simple advice. So simple that it can get easily overlooked. We have the capacity to easily turn something simple into something complex, don't we?
I can't count the number of times I have shunned the idea of getting to the edge for fear of failure. I remember not wanting to even go to Yoga because I was afraid I wouldn't be good enough. I hadn't practiced for a long period of time and was convinced that I would make a fool of myself if I tried. I entertained all kinds of self-limiting beliefs, giving in to my fears and doubts.
There is a beautiful quote about standing close to the edge by American writer Kurt Vonnegut, "I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center."
Do you feel powerful in your business? Where does that power come from? Do you bring that power to your business intentionally?
Richa sat down with friend and Driven to Excel founder and CEO, Steve Dorfman, to answer a few of these tough questions. Steve is also the host of the show "We Mean Business" where he interviews business executives, subject matter experts, and authors who give insight into just what it takes to build a successful business and life.
Steve Dorfman is quite the acomplished businessman having earned the title "Salesman of the Year" 7 consecutive years! Steve's mission in business is to "Inspire others to be a hero...for their customers and clients." Richa shares her philosophies on gratitude, being present, simplicity, and her ever-popular Pause in this interview. She also opens up about what she thinks about people who consider her work "fluff".
Do you honor silence as a time for reflection? Silence is not the absence of something but the presence of everything.
It is a gift you give yourself to notice your inner dialogue. Give yourself the permission to just get quiet. Break the cycle of busy-ness and doing and allow the emptiness and silence that follows. An empty vessel has space to receive.
I was the new girl in 8th grade. My family had just moved from Hyderabad to Chennai in the Southern part of India. It was an all girls school and my 8th grade class had quite a few cliques in it. Around half a dozen groups of 3-4 girls, whispering, giggling, and gossiping. I never really felt like I fit into any of these groups, I had my own set of issues going on I guess.
Leaving my besties from my previous school, St. Anne's, in Secunderabad was proving rough. I had been there for three years, 5th through 7th grade and had made really great friends. I really really missed them. Thirty years later, I am still connected with the friends I made then.
Now in the new school I felt awkward and didn't know how to relate to an entire new class. I took the route I knew best, I pretended to not need friends. But the entire time I was longing and hoping that someone would want to be my friend, laugh, giggle and play with me too. I really missed laughing and was beginning to get...
I hosted the most recent Pause For Power networking luncheon last week on June 19th, a day also known as "Juneteenth". It was on the 19th of June in 1865 that the last of the African American slaves received news of their emancipation. Although the declaration of emancipation happened in 1863, it took almost 2 and a half years for the slaves in Texas to receive the news. If only Twitter or Facebook existed back then!
Rightly called freedom day in Texas, the coincident Pause for Power event on Juneteenth inspired me to lead my audience into an inquiry of the state of our own personal freedom in our lives today. What does freedom mean to us? Is freedom just another word?
History books the world over tell stories about the fight for freedom, and many of these struggles are still ongoing. The fight for freedom from oppression and segregation; the fight for independence from colonization; the fight for women's liberation including the right to an education, the right to vote, the right...
In response to the need for clear, concise communication in both business and personal relationships, Jim developed a concept and process, Powerful Partnerships®, which teaches people to speak truthfully, without causing defensiveness or hurt feelings. As a result, people become more powerful and can more effectively realize goals through an authentic connection with others.
Jim continues to share his expertise by offering Powerful Partnerships for Business Professionals and Powerful Partnerships for Couples programs. These programs have a transforming effect on relationships regardless of how long participants have felt stuck or unhappy in their business or personal lives. The programs also have a major impact on leadership, teamwork and productivity in business, and improve functioning for couples and families.
Since 1993, Dr. Jim has been serving as an executive coach to CEO's and management teams of national corporations and top government...