Many of you are parents, like me. We all know how devastating bullying can be in our schools. Just read the news and you'll see stories of families who have been torn apart by young ones committing suicide due to the effects of being bullied at school. Schools should be a place where all children feel safe and accepted; where they are free to share their thoughts and feelings and should never be afraid of being made to feel that they are less than others or not good enough.
Recently, I had the opportunity to work with a group of amazing children from Middleburg Community Charter School and together we came up with an incredible Bullying Prevention video. In this video, children share their heartwrenching stories of how bullying has affected their lives. They talk about how bullying made them feel and discuss how, when they were bullied by others, it made them stop and think about whether or not they had unintentionally bullied others or made others feel sad. Teachers...
Unless you've been living under a rock, you've heard about the numerous recent scandals concerning sexual abuse and harassment in Hollywood, D.C., pretty much everywhere. Women have stayed silent for decades, enduring years of heartache, guilt, and shame. I know how they feel. I've been there, and now I want to share a portion of my book Coming Home to the Heart that perfectly describes this time in my life:
"I have seen support groups for survivors of abuse and watched online forums as well to see how participants interact with each other. Decades after the abuse, there is still unprocessed anger and shame. There is still the “me against the abuser” rhetoric. I find that such groups of people gravitate toward one another. We love what is familiar even if it is painful, usually because even those things that cause pain may seem safer than the unknown. The repeated use of the terms “victim” and “survivor” continue to foster feelings of...
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.”
― Pema Chödrön
I have been on a journey of recovery, healing, and transformation most of my life. There is no destination on this journey, no “arriving”. There is awareness and an awakening to the truth of who you really are and once that happens you can’t look the other way. You know there is more, and so you put one foot in front of the other and move yourself forward one day at a time.
We have all had our hearts broken at least once if not many times. On some level, most people experience some form of trauma, betrayal, pain or heartache. I have recently been finding my art and poetry from 20-25 years ago and am hoping that it might bring hope and healing to some on this similar journey…
This was one of those times that I found my heart went through annihilation yet again:
The Essential Self
I have found that my life has been on a journey on a lazy river of recovery and transformation for most of my life. And along this journey, I have encountered all three – trauma, truth, and triumph.
Lately, I have found myself writing a lot more and I feel like sharing some of it here with you today. In moments of my awakening and shifts, I write. When I am moved, sad or shedding my scales, I write. I find deep healing and transformation occurs for me when I do this. I find access to happiness and peace through writing. There are times it literally feels unrealistic that I could go from one diametrically opposite state of being and feeling to another. But something shifts once I have written, and I feel renewed. In this piece of writing below this happened once again for me and I lived through the trauma, truth and triumph all in this stream of consciousness. There truly are infinite opportunities for healing. Here is Choices:
I could go on and on about the pain
The last words of Gautama the Buddha on the earth were: Be a light unto yourself. Do not follow others, do not imitate, because imitation, following, creates stupidity. You are born with a tremendous possibility of intelligence. You are born with a light within you. Listen to the still, small voice within, and that will guide you. Nobody else can guide you, nobody else can become a model for your life because you are unique. Nobody has there ever been who was exactly like you, and nobody is ever going to be there again who will be exactly like you. This is your glory, your grandeur -- that you are utterly irreplaceable, that you are just yourself and nobody else. -- Osho, Indian mystic
I was reminded of this quote because of late I have been experiencing a shift in perception. I can go back 30 years at least, and vividly remember instances where the rug got pulled out from under my feet and I felt alone, ashamed and worthless. It became really important for me to be accepted and...
I wrote this “prayer” this morning. The words began pouring through as I was waking up, which seemed like at least an hour before even my alarm rang at 5:30....thank you for holding me in your love, light, and hearts....
What Would You Have Me Do?
Sometimes there is nothing more to do than surrender
Flipping, flopping, and floundering has no use
The struggle is useless
The suffering is pointless
All there is to do is surrender to the WILL of God
And ask a direct question - What Would You Have Me Do?
What would you have me do?
Because my mind is limited and not unconditioned and free from my own small thinking.
What may I do to be more miracle-minded, because that’s what I need today?
What would you have me say?
Because the words that come out of this mouth are false when I am flustered with fear and terror and not receiving the purity of love that flows from you, my creator.
My words are not always kind as they are riddled with doubt and I begin...
Everyone has a story. And not just any story, but a story that is totally, completely and utterly unique. Every single being has, like a thumbprint or a snowflake, a signature story like none other. Take a moment and remember a time you heard someone tell you about their life, something that touched, moved and inspired you. You found yourself not just listening with the utmost intentionality but found yourself viscerally feeling their story too like you were there in the experience with them as it happened. Why is that? How was that possible?
As a speaker and workshop leader, I have seen emotions come up in my audience. I have found that when I am vulnerable and share from a deep and truthful place there is an energetic connection that cannot be described. Something happens. It’s like the molecules in the space move and rearrange themselves to generate the same openness and vulnerability in the audience. No amount of practiced or memorized speech giving can create this...
Operating System defined on Webopedia: “The operating system (OS) is the most important program that runs on a computer. Every general-purpose computer must have an operating system to run other programs and applications. Computer operating systems perform basic tasks, such as recognizing input from the keyboard, sending output to the display screen, keeping track of files and directories on the storage drives, and controlling peripheral devices, such as printers.”
All technology runs on some type of OS. A set of rules, processes, and methodologies, essentially a “program” that gives it the path to arrive at a specific result at the end. I bet you would find 5 things right away that run on a set of either simple operating rules or system, from the simplest to the most complex forms.
Take your own computer or just your smartphone for that matter. On occasion we get a pop-up informing us of an available upgrade. We are advised to install these updates so that...
On Mother's Day a few years ago, my girls asked me what I wanted to do. I told them I wanted to give them massages. Some may see this as strange or weird perhaps...maybe thinking the girls should have been giving me a massage...but for me, spending that precious time with my girls, one at a time, loving and nurturing them was how I received. The greatest gift they could have given me was the time spent together. That is what truly brought joy to my heart.
When we break down the word "forgiving" we literally see the words FOR GIVING. How cool is that? Forgiving is truly FOR GIVING. I am no exception to this. Like many others, I have been through some significant struggles in my life, but I honestly have to say that being able to FORGIVE has helped me receive more grace than I could have ever imagined possible. Forgiving is a choice, and it's one that doesn't come easily for most.
Another choice when something doesn't go our way is to complain and whine about why we're not getting...
One moment IT was there, the next moment, IT was gone. I was overcome with a clarity like never before. My eyes had never seen like they could see before, my ears had never listened like this, words seemed more deliberate than ever. This magical, mystical, miracle moment of my life was the moment I lost IT.
What is IT, you ask? IT is the Inner Talk, the Inner Trash or the Inner Turmoil that used to go on and on and on inside my head. For decades entertaining me, with it’s non-stop running movie reel with back to back screenings, incessantly, playing and replaying, sometimes in slow motion, in high definition, zooming in on mostly those events I wanted to forget. An inner turmoil – twisted and tricky, that would just never stop, a voice that would never shut up, it would go on and on and bring me down, it would remind me of my failings, what was not working for me, who was next on the disappointing me list, what they did, how they hurt me, how I was betrayed,...