Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit – Napolean Hill
Once upon a time in my life certain events left me in anger, pain and sadness. That's when I found transformational meditation and spirituality. Or should I say, it found me. I have had an eventful journey of healing. On this journey I picked up a thing or two that inspired me to teach and share with others. Before I knew it, I had established my professional practice as a spiritual mentor, meditation guide and transformational leader. It has taken me eighteen years and counting since the day I had my first big breakthrough.
Somehow helping myself and then those in my immediate sphere of influence wasn't enough, declared the Universe. In the past two years, there have been events and insights that have shown me that there is more for me to uncover and to share. And so, I listened, I paused and I embraced that yes, I did in fact have more to do in...
"It's choice...not chance...that determines your destiny." –Michelle Jean Nidetch
What does this mean exactly? In our daily lives we make thousands of choices...to get out of bed in the morning, what to wear, what food to put into our bodies...each and every choice forming and shaping our life experiences for that day. We know that if it is 90 degrees outside and we choose to wear a sweater with a turtle neck, we're going to be hot. We know if we choose to eat cake and ice cream for breakfast, we're probably not going to feel well or have much energy throughout the day. But it's still our choice.
These seem like simplified, common sense choices we take for granted every day, but they are indeed still choices...opportunities for us to decide whether or not our day turns out positively or negatively. In the grand scheme of things the best we can hope for is to make the best choices possible to produce the most positive outcome.
However, that not all choices in life are as black...
This past April I participated in a 21-day "Clean Eating Detox" Program with Danielle Omar. I had just come back from the Anahatha Love and Aliveness Weekend Retreat and already felt like I was in a great place. I thought to myself, "What do I need to do a 21-day detox for? I already feel great!". And as I said that I realized, being whole and balanced in Body, Mind and Spirit was not just about conscious breath and meditation. I still had old lurking habits around food that I knew I wanted to change. I knew I wanted to reinforce better behavior and instill Conscious + Confident Eating Habits in my life.
Enter Danielle Omar, M.S, R.D and her 21-day "Clean Eating Detox" Program.
During her 21-day Clean Eating Detox Program, Danielle shared a wealth of information about healthy food alternatives, grocery shopping, organic produce, supplements, smoothies, mindset and more. I learnt:
• How to balance my plate to ensure I was getting all the right nutrients in my meal
It was around twenty years ago when I was written off by my Psychology Professors in my first year of college. I implored them to help me as I had been sexually abused and needed help. I received no help, guidance or counseling. The matter and I were instantly dismissed. We never spoke about it ever again. Twenty years later, when I witness the aftermath of the Sandusky verdict and the rampant denial by the NCAA, Board of Trustees of Penn State, Joe Paterno and the list of others, I just find the entire situation all too familiar. That's why I love the Mark Twain quote in the blog heading.
That one day amongst few others profoundly altered the course of my life. Due to the denial first from my family and then my institution, I found no other means to cope other than to drop out of college and transplant myself far away from everyone. Looking back at that time their denial cost me many years of my life. I understand that today things are...
Today marks the day the Sandusky verdict was announced. It is also the day when the healing for the children, families, communities and our nation begins.
What happened at Penn State was a terrible tragedy. But as a witness to what transpired, what have we learned? Why not take a moment to get present and witness the potential for the limitless healing and transformation in this event?
I am a busy mother of three girls, 7, 6 and 3. Having been the recipient of childhood molestation and abuse my "radar" is definitely alive and well! However, my mother didn't have one. She was forced to adopt one 5 years after the molestation had begun. By then the damage was done. At least a significant part of it.
Today, I can say that I have had an incredible journey of healing and transformation. In fact, having learned a thing or two about self-healing, unconditional forgiveness and love along the way I started teaching and helping others tap into their own limitlessness to heal and...
It's only May and 2012 has already taught me so much. It has brought so much wonderment, vulnerability and presence into my life. I am humbled by the limitless abundance in the Universe as it continues to lovingly nudge me along on my journey. I feel the Universe's spiritual presence so deeply in this moment. I know I am not alone, I am supported. I am grateful.
April 25th 2012 arrived with news that my 88 year old grandmother, my Nanima, had passed away. She was my dearest, sweetest soul mate and friend and always will be. What I experienced in grieving her passing was so intense and profound as I connected with the energy sans her physical, material body and state of being. My pain, sadness and grief was intensified every time I remembered her touch, voice, physical presence, smile and her jokes. When I connected with her spirit I felt peace, love and blessings.
This was new for me. This was fresh. Practicing the meditations and connecting with the energies has always been...
My girls are 7, 6 and 3. I have already been requested by my oldest a few times regarding sleepovers at friends homes. Hmmmmm, breathe Mamma, breathe......
I remember as a kid, the idea of going over to a friend’s place for a sleepover was fun and exciting. As a mother, the idea of my daughter going to a friend’s place for a sleepover is scary and an absolute NO-NO! Breathe in (count to 4), breathe out (count to 4), repeat....! While the arguments, pros, cons and opinions regarding this idea are limitless, how does this relate to my Anahatha (the heart center) journey? This dilemma helps me get present to the “Peeling An Onion” phenomena as I like to call it.
What does “Peeling An Onion” mean in the context of Anahatha? It’s a metaphor for an integral aspect of the journey of personal transformation and spiritual growth. There are many layers of inner awareness and awakening. You can only get fully present to one layer at a time....
Do you know this song? It's by a 70's rock band called The Little River Band. What's that got to do with me, you and the world of Anahatha?
Today is Valentine's Day. It also happens to be my 10 year wedding anniversary. Hence the "Happy Anniversary Baby, Got You On My Mind" to my honey who is away on a business trip. But I find today to also be a seminal moment on my Anahatha (Heart) journey. A time to reflect on the "State of the Union", if you will.
My friends and clients who I share this piece of my story with always respond with either an "Aw!" or "How sweet" when I share that that my husband (Kash) and I met when we were 3 and 4 years old, respectively. Very quickly, the next question is usually, "Was it an arranged marriage?" The answer to that is, "No, it wasn't".
We have three lovely daughters together, 7, 6 and almost 3. We have a beautiful life. We love each other. All true. But there is something we missed out on in the last 10 years and I wanted to share that...
The title of this blog is a quote from Viola Davis's acceptance speech at the SAG (Screen Actors Guild) Awards for best actress in "The Help". She'll probably be the one to win the Oscar too.
So, what does that have to do with Anahatha or this blog?
Anahatha means the Heart Chakra. And yesterday as I "happened" to catch the news on TV (which BTW I rarely do), I knew I was "meant" to be reminded of this message when Viola spoke from her heart.
Interesting how things unravel.
On being asked how she felt about where she was now in her career she replied that her career shifted from the moment she realized that she had a voice. And that she could use it. She had found in herself the power to claim her space in the movie business. And this was after experiencing her fair share of rejection, Hollywood style.
Once she made the inner shift, she said, her career started to shift as well. And voila! Viola is on a roll, isn't she?
That ... is "Personal Transformation" right...
If you are reading this you probably know that my Personal Transformation and Spiritual Mentoring practice is called “Anahatha”. And Anahatha is the name given to the Heart Chakra. There are three Chakras that lie above the Heart Chakra and three Chakras that lie below the Heart Chakra and it is at the Heart Chakra that heaven and earth meet. My students and retreat participants have heard me say this many times.
But why am I saying this to you now?
Well, on my recent trip to India I had some insights into a deeper space of my Anahatha (Heart) journey and I felt like it was time for me to share these insights with you.
Ever had an experience where things get so twisted and you have no idea where you’re heading? Then you find out that all that twisting ended up being a yummy, delicious pretzel. Frankly, I don’t care for pretzels, but just for yucks, let’s say I did.
Something completely unexpected and unplanned happened in India. And I am so glad...